Other people shouldn’t play that much of a role in our practice, because it's purely an internal matter. When you reach the deathless, nobody else has to know. They just sense that you’re less of a burden on them.

"Other people shouldn’t play that much of a role in our practice, because the practice is purely an internal matter. As Ajaan Lee once said, it’s your own business where you are in the practice. It’s nobody else’s business. If your behavior is a burden on them, that makes it other people’s business. But the less burdensome your behavior is, then it becomes less and less and less anybody else’s business — until finally you reach the deathless. That’s totally your own business. Nobody else has to know. They just sense it in that you’re less of a burden on them."

~ Thanissaro Bhikkhu "Self-esteem"

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